Out Of The Way Thinking
Posted on 02. Sep, 2010 by Ken Bechtel in The Goo Blog
By Guest Blogger – Nicole Irlbeck – Restoration Fitness – Boulder, Colorado
What inspires you?
You know those days where you feel like you are headed in the right direction, and everything you are doing feels like what you were meant to do?
Then again, why do we spend so many days feeling like we are in a fog, just going through the motions? Did you ever stop to think that the reason you are feeling dull, uninspired, or less than successful is because you are in your own way?
Cheri Ruskus, the editor-in-chief of Victory Circles magazine has often told me to get out of my own way. In Gay Hendricks book, the Big Leap, he states, “When you get to judgment day, God will not ask you ‘why were you not Moses’, but rather, ‘why were you not you’?â€Â There are multiple reasons for why we get in our own way. Allow me to list a few here:
We have a false belief that we are not good enough, smart enough, or deserving enough to expect more out of our lives and therefore shrink into mediocrity. Self-contempt never leaves our side.
We believe that we will never be as good as our neighbor or have too many obstacles to overcome to actually reach our dreams. Jealousy and bitterness are our constant companions.
We believe that once we reveal our greatness, more will be expected of us, and the burden of either keeping that up or making everyone else around us “OK†with our success seems like too much to handle. Playing small makes us feel safe.
Over the course of my career, I have listened to hundreds of women and girls talk about their lives. There isn’t a shadow of a doubt that we lack inspiration at our core. The problem is most often that we get in our own way more than we allow ourselves to believe we can shine.
What would it mean to dump the head trash that keeps reminding you of your laziness, regrets, mistakes, embarrassments, fears, or bitterness? It would mean that we would have to accept the fact that we are fundamentally perfect, or that we are capable beyond our wildest dreams to do that which reveals our genius.
It would mean that instead of beating ourselves up for the things that occupy our thoughts, we could open our minds up to the boundless possibilities before us. We might even begin to really see how in holding ourselves back we are withholding gifts that other people really need from us.
Let’s start going out of our way to believe we are deserving, competent, bright, equipped, secure, and ready to take on an inspiring life- not only for our benefit, but, primarily for those who will benefit from our genius!
Nicole Irlbeck began Restoration Fitness out of her love of exercise and her desire to see women making the choice to love their bodies. She incorporates her Masters degree in exercise science, passion for authentic beauty, and athletic performance & rehabilitation experience with women (and buddies!) of all ages and levels to deliver a fun and effective wellness programs. Nicole can be reached through her website at www.restorationfitness.net or by phone at 303.482.6290.
